Complementarianism: God's Roles for Men & Women

Many people read 1 Timothy 2 and have a hard time understanding the passage. Let me just lay it out clearly here: In God's eyes, ALL are equal. Males are not superior to females; females are not superior to males. However, as the following article illustrates, "Though equal, men and women have biblically defined complementary and distinct roles."

http://theresurgence.com/2011/12/20/complementariwhat

Since the fall of humankind, women have been oppressed, marginalized, and abused. Likewise, children have been abandoned, left to die, and treated like a commodity. Men have also suffered but have often been the cause of much of the suffering that women and children endure.

Because life is often tragic for women and children, a biblical

understanding of how men are called to relate to them is very important.

But often, our ideas of gender roles are confused. There are three main positions in regards to these gender roles: chauvinism, egalitarianism, and complementarianism.

Mars Hill is committed to complementarianism in the home and church. We also believe that men and women are partners in every area of life and ministry together. Though equal, men and women have biblically defined

complementary and distinct roles, so that husbands are to lovingly lead their homes like Jesus and only men should serve as pastors in the church. Because of the sinful propensity of humans to distort the biblical

concept of complementarianism, it’s important to cultivate a compassionate and kind complementarianism that starts with celebrating Christ’s love for the church. Likewise we encourage men to love their wives and children, and for pastors to lead and serve people sacrificially.

Complementarianism Is Not Chauvinism

Chauvinism is an extreme position and says that men and women have been created in a hierarchy with the male as the higher, superior sex—much like a king born into a family with a natural right to exercise authority over the rest of his nation. Women, in this view, are the weaker or lesser of the sexes, inheriting a natural role of submission to the man—like the

citizens of a country who have no natural claim to authority.

The practical implication of chauvinism is that in the family, the church, and society, women are not to exercise authority over men because it is believed they are incapable of doing so by virtue of how God has made them.

This is the assumption of “male privilege,” which is a term that refers generally to the special rights or status granted to men but denied to women in a society on the basis of their gender. This position is wrong because it’s oppressive and abusive, and because it is a misunderstanding of God’s creative intentions for men and women as his image-bearers.

Complementarianism Is Not Egalitarianism

A second position is often referred to as egalitarianism. While affirming that God creates men and women equal, some proponents of egalitarianism say that there is no God-ordained structuring of how men and women ought to serve in the church and the home.

The egalitarian position correctly sees God as creating men and women as completely equal persons, both gloriously expressing the image of God.

However, some egalitarians argue that there is no difference in how husbands and wives ought to relate to and serve each other. Scripture makes it clear, as we’ll see below, that God ordained a framework in which men and women are to use their gifts and talents in the home and church.

Biblical Complementarianism

What Mars Hill believes about the roles of men and women is

called complementarianism. Unlike chauvinism, this view affirms (with the egalitarian position) that God created men and women as equal image-bearers of the Trinity.

While men and women are different, there is nothing inherent in men or women that grants them either authority or submission. However, the Scriptures make clear that God designated that the marriage relationship—patterned after Christ’s own relationship with the church—be one in which the man and the woman each play distinct roles (Eph. 5:22–33; Col. 3:18–20).

In Ephesians 5, the Apostle Paul draws a parallel between marriage and the relationship between Christ and the church. The husband is the head of the wife similar to how Christ is the head of the church, and husbands are to love their wives in the same way that Christ sacrificially gave himself for the church. Paul writes: “[Husbands] let each of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Eph. 5:33).

Leading

Some people have difficulty with the idea of complementarianism because they have either experienced or wrongly assumed that a husband’s leadership is macho domination. But the perfect example of leadership is shown in Christ’s love for his bride, the church.

Christ’s relationship to the church is the kind of leadership that sacrificially gives for the good of another. It’s this type of leadership that husbands are intended to model to their wives so their marriages are reflections of Christ’s love for his church.

This leadership is in the context of mutual submission to each other in which both husband and wife are “submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Eph. 5:21).

Pastor Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill recently gave a sermon on the subject. Those who still have questions, please check it out:

http://marshill.com/media/gods-work-our-witness/where-are-you

I've also shared my notes on the subject in another post, focusing on the role of women in the church. This sermon was given by Pastor Terry Gray of Calvary Chapel:
http://aletheia-seekers.blogspot.com/2011/04/womens-place-in-spiritual-leadership.html


But the bottom line is, first UNDERSTAND and LEARN how Jesus, as the Head, loved His bride, the Church. Once we truly comprehend that love, we will then understand Paul's instructions in 1 Timothy 2. When such a love blossoms between the partnership of a man and a woman, it no longer is a matter of who is better so who gets to lead, but a matter of how the two different genders can both contribute significantly to their lives as one in the glory of God using the gifts they have been blessed with.